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来てくれた人達は、二人の生涯で最も祝福を受ける日に、二人が本当に来て欲しい人達です。
その人達に二人の結婚を誓うんです。
スーツでもドレス×ドレス、タキシード×タキシードでも、ドレス×タキシードでも、一番素敵な、ご自身達に似合う第一礼装で大切な人達に、二人が幸せになることを誓います。
ここからは私の考えですが。
煩い人達をキックアウトする為に、私達がお願いした所は、人前式三人しか呼んじゃダメらしいの💖
とにっこりしておけば問題ないです。
入籍はしてもしなくても良い、所謂パートナーシップ締結式として、サインをして、二人の社会に「じゃ、これから二人は公式にパートナーだから」と宣言するのも良いですよね。
此処から事実婚にしても良いし、ロマンティックな関係が終わっても良いんです。
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| DE & Co. Photography Rental Yumi Katsura AK-10201 |
Since it's Sunday, I'm writing something gentle.
LA VIE EN ROSE apparently translates to “Life is rosy.”
When the moment comes in your lives where you might hesitate about whether to have a wedding ceremony or not, I imagine what concerns you most is the budget and who to invite.
When renting a wedding dress, I think a classic style is probably best, so I'm sharing a screenshot.
I wonder what the budget range is these days.
Actually, I rented my wedding dress.
I visited chain stores and shops by very famous wedding dress designers, but nothing really appealed to me. Then, when I popped into a small local rental shop that handled wedding dresses, I found this absolutely beautiful antique lace wedding dress.
It was an all-lace dress with just a hint of antique color, not pure white. It had a sleek, slim silhouette, with thick white fabric covering up to the chest. The back opened about 15 cm above the waist, covered in delicate lace all the way up to the neck.
At the back waist, two layers of lace ribbon overlapped, with the ribbon's hem flowing like a veil to the floor.
I believe it was ¥50,000 at the time.
It was so beautiful I wanted to buy it, but renting was already stretching my budget, so it was impossible.
That's why I still remember it vividly.
I loved it so much. I was proud of myself for not compromising at any shop, thinking, “I get to wear the most beautiful dress in the world.”
I rented only the dress; I bought new items for the wedding veil, shoes, something new, and something blue.
If you're considering marriage in your future and have a vision of wearing that one dress, I strongly recommend renting.
You can see and choose from countless designs without compromise, leaving no room for doubt.
It's also wonderful that you can keep your budget intact and only invest the time needed to search.
The time spent searching for that dress is rare in life; it was a deeply romantic, personal journey just for me.
There's a less common ceremony style called a public ceremony (Jinzenshiki).
This is a ceremony where everyone who attends witnesses the couple's marriage vows, pledging their happiness to the people present.
It's a ceremony style where the couple pledges to the people they truly want to call upon, rather than to a god or religion, creating a very refreshing atmosphere.
The type I witnessed featured the couple dressed in bright, dressy suits, while all attendees wore stylish attire that felt formal.
There was no matchmaker. The priest officiated as the representative witness. On a cloth-covered table lay a single leather-bound vow document. Using one pen, each partner signed their own name, and that was it.
There was no “I do,” no speeches, nothing at all.
The priest was strictly a witness representative and did not perform any religious blessings according to any denomination.
After signing, the host (from the hotel) announced to the attendees that the signing was complete, everyone clapped, and that was it.
Afterwards, they moved locations for the reception.
I remember this style of ceremony very vividly.
Probably because the participants, the couple, and the priest all had such bright, cheerful faces.
When introducing your partner to your respective social circles through a formal ceremony, you must invite people who aren't necessarily essential guests, even if they aren't the ones you truly wish to attend.
This tradition often creates unpleasant memories surrounding weddings, leaving the couple—who should be celebrating the best day of their lives—exhausted by preparations and even embroiled in unnecessary arguments.
If you can view these as life experiences, they may eventually transform into warm memories through the richness of life itself. However, I believe this is precisely why many people, after finding their partner, choose not to have a wedding ceremony.
When civil ceremonies were featured in the media, utterly foolish people mocked them as “plain weddings.” Even now, in 2025, this deeply offends me. That's why I'm telling you all about it in today's Sunday edition, to boldly take revenge.
I love this style of ceremony the most.
The people who come are those the couple truly want there on the day they receive the most blessings in their lives.
They pledge their marriage to those very people.
Whether in suits, dresses, tuxedos, or a mix of formal wear, dressed in their finest, most flattering attire, they vow to be happy before their cherished guests.
Even if the couple later choose different paths, those guests will always bless their future.
Because the people you truly want there are the ones who sincerely wish for your happiness.
Now, here's my personal take.
For a public ceremony arrangement, you can swear on anything you believe in.
Witnesses for a public ceremony can be a pastor, a captain, or a lawyer.
If you're having a public ceremony just the two of you, it's also lovely to invite the author of your favorite story, a manga artist, a painter, etc., and have them sign after you both sign.
Since these are people whose signed articles or works carry significant meaning, having them sign your marriage vows is a tremendous honor.
I think it would make you feel proud and warm inside.
To kick out the annoying people, the place we asked apparently only allows three witnesses for the public ceremony 💖
Just smile and it'll be fine.
Whether or not you register the marriage, it's also nice to have a signing ceremony as a partnership declaration, telling your shared community, “Alright, from now on, we're officially partners.”
It's a ceremony where you get recognition from the community you value, saying, “This person is my official partner.”
From here, you can choose to live as common-law partners, or it's okay if the romantic relationship ends.
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It's for rental.
If you just want to wear the dress, I think you should request photos during the pre-wedding shoot, take pictures with both of you individually, and then send the photos to everyone you want to share them with, either by email or postal mail.
This dress is the kind that makes everyone who learns of your marriage go, “Wow!”
Since it's a matter of preference, if renting, I think you should look for dresses in this class.
Currently, for tuxedo styles, there aren't many gorgeous options available.
Since “only one of you gets the best,” I think this is a major reason couples decide against the dress, stemming from their mutual care for each other.
I hate the idea that only I get to be beautiful while you settle for something mediocre, and that spending time and money on this for your new life together is just expected. You don't have to do it. Wearing a dress isn't the purpose of life, after all.
I bet many people feel this way, right?
So for men's styles, if you look for stage costumes that aren't comical—like suit types, tuxedo types, or frock coat jacket types—even those not wearing dresses can look formal, elegant, and gorgeous.
Also, many maisons, starting with Yohji Yamamoto, excel at unisex styles combining skirts and pants.
Back when I was searching, Chanel rental dresses existed starting in the double digits.
Since you're wearing a dress anyway, it's wonderful to wear your dream haute couture.
It's perfectly fine to wear a dress style for a public ceremony too.
I'm afraid I'm not well-informed about this.
What happens to the finale bridesmaids dresses from the collections now?
If they entered the rental market after the collections ended, wouldn't designers be surprised daily to see, “My bridesmaid dress is popular in rentals!”?
When asking a respected designer to attend a civil ceremony, I think emailing their office is sufficient.
Since they're attending to celebrate your special day, wouldn't they gladly join if their schedule allows?
For those you truly wished to attend, even if you eventually lose touch, the memory of being invited to the public ceremony—the feeling of being chosen by the couple—will remain a happy honor, a lasting light within the richness of each person's continuing life.
Whenever they recall it, the wish for the couple's present and future happiness will keep burning bright within those you so earnestly invited.
This is an eternal blessing bestowed upon everyone.
I call this profound participation a promise of life.
Well then, have a wonderful Sunday.
Translated with DeepL.com (free version)
20251228 16:39 Revised the text.
