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| 初めて買ったカレーとウォッカ（度数3％）の缶 |
ご飯作り係にされそうな流れが、昔からあったんです。
パートナーと出会って、食事に行くようになって、そろそろ自分の部屋へご招待。
というのが私世代の大体の流れだったんですが。
婚前交渉なんて！という方は、この場合は含まれません。
ちなみに性問わず、婚前交渉無し、今まで生きてきてそこまで本気の出会いが無かった等の場合。
私が知ってる世の中の当たり前のリアクションは、
「自分を初めての相手に選んでくれてありがとう。」
です。
ご飯作り係にされない為に私がやっていたのは、
相手を部屋に上げて手作り料理を御馳走するまで、
「料理をする」「料理が出来る」と決して言わない。
でした。
色々なテクニックがあると思うので、これで失敗してしまった場合、私は責任を取れませんけれど。
私は、そうしていました。
相手に対して本気だ、という時間が始まり、やっと自分の部屋に相手を入れるまで、私は、
「料理が出来るの？ 」と大して親しくもなっていない相手から訊かれた時は、
「死なない程度に」と答えていました。
または絵に描いたような、
「肉じゃがとかハンバーグとか、そういうのしか作れないんだよね。」
と答えて、相手にそれ以上誘わせないようにしてました。それで態度がコロッと変わって誘われたら、断ってました。
だって普段仕事して1人で暮らしてるから、おつき合いしている間からその先の段階に進んだ後も、料理係にされたらつき合いを続けることが出来ないし、そういう相手はパートナーでは無い、からです。
なので私は相手を部屋に入れるまで、自分が料理を、その年頃の一般的な人達より普通に出来ることを、一切口に出しませんでしたし、常にマニキュアをしていました。
私とおつき合いしていた相手達は、最初は、多くの余計な口出しをしてくる人達に向かって、
「いいんだよ。そういう事を求めてつき合っていないから。」と言ってくれていました。
そして部屋で料理を御馳走した後は、ずっとにこやかな秘密を一緒に共有してくれていました。
そういうやり方もあります。
なので、手料理を御馳走しても良い、と思う相手しか、ご自身の部屋に入れてはいけないし、部屋の前まで送ってもらうのはケースバイケースにしておくのが基本です。
すると、相手が暴力的な人間だったり、料理をいつもお願いして来るばかりどころか、住環境にまつわる事、健康維持にまつわる事全部をやらせる上に、一緒に働いてもらわないと結婚できないよ、とか言い出す相手が近寄ってきませんし、うっかりおつき合いし始めても、変に料理をしろ、ごみ出しをしろ、という話題の本や、この人の真似をしようよ的な状況に、あなたを連れて行き始めたら、さっさと次に行きましょう。
よかったら。
Rains in Heaven / Great Hacking テーマ曲（非公式）
Rains in Heavenという楽曲をGreat Hacking のテーマ曲にすることに決めました。
O.先生も大賛成して下さっています。
この楽曲は、お隣の国 韓国のNCT DREAMの曲です。
「君が泣くと、天国で雨が降る。」
という歌詞です。
私はこんな素敵な感性に初めて触れました。
優しく、天国にいる方達は貴方の味方だと告げる楽曲です。
私達がやっているGreat Hackingの理由に通じる楽曲だと思います。
20250414 18:32 文章を直しました。
20250414 01:09 文章を直しました。
20251217 16:35 Great Hackingに追加しました。
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| purish = the real deal |
There's always been this pattern where I'd end up being the one expected to cook.
Meeting a partner, going out to eat, then eventually inviting them back to my place.
That was pretty much the standard flow for my generation.
This doesn't apply to those who think, “Premarital sex? No way!”
By the way, regardless of gender, if it's no premarital sex, or if you've never had a serious enough relationship to get to that point before.
The typical reaction I've seen in the world is:
“Thank you for choosing me as your first.”
To avoid being relegated to cook, my strategy was this:
Until I invited someone over and served them a homemade meal,
I never said, “I cook” or “I can cook.”
There are probably various techniques, so if this fails, I can't take responsibility.
But that's what I did.
Until the moment when things got serious and I finally let them into my room, whenever someone I wasn't particularly close to asked,
“Can you cook?”
I'd reply,
“Just enough not to die.”
Or I'd give a textbook answer like,
“I can only make stuff like meat and potatoes stew or hamburgers.”
to discourage them from inviting me further. If their attitude suddenly changed and they invited me anyway, I'd decline.
Because I work and live alone, if someone treated me like the cook during dating or even after we got serious, I couldn't continue the relationship. That kind of person isn't a partner to me.
So until I invited someone into my apartment, I never mentioned that I could cook just as well as the average person my age. I always wore nail polish too.
The people I dated initially told those who made unnecessary comments,
“It's fine. That's not why we're dating.”
And after I cooked for them in my apartment, they shared that cheerful secret with me forever.
That's one way to do it.
Therefore, as a basic rule, you should only let someone into your room if you feel comfortable treating them to a home-cooked meal, and whether you let them walk you to your door should be decided on a case-by-case basis.
This way, people who are violent, or who not only constantly ask you to cook for them but also demand you handle everything related to maintaining the living environment, or health maintenance—and then demand you work together or else marriage is out of the question.
Even if you accidentally start dating someone like that, if they start dragging you into conversations about cookbooks or books on chores, or suggesting you copy someone else's lifestyle, move on quickly.
If you don't mind.
Translated with DeepL.com (free version)
Meeting a partner, going out to eat, then eventually inviting them back to my place.
That was pretty much the standard flow for my generation.
This doesn't apply to those who think, “Premarital sex? No way!”
By the way, regardless of gender, if it's no premarital sex, or if you've never had a serious enough relationship to get to that point before.
The typical reaction I've seen in the world is:
“Thank you for choosing me as your first.”
To avoid being relegated to cook, my strategy was this:
Until I invited someone over and served them a homemade meal,
I never said, “I cook” or “I can cook.”
There are probably various techniques, so if this fails, I can't take responsibility.
But that's what I did.
Until the moment when things got serious and I finally let them into my room, whenever someone I wasn't particularly close to asked,
“Can you cook?”
I'd reply,
“Just enough not to die.”
Or I'd give a textbook answer like,
“I can only make stuff like meat and potatoes stew or hamburgers.”
to discourage them from inviting me further. If their attitude suddenly changed and they invited me anyway, I'd decline.
Because I work and live alone, if someone treated me like the cook during dating or even after we got serious, I couldn't continue the relationship. That kind of person isn't a partner to me.
So until I invited someone into my apartment, I never mentioned that I could cook just as well as the average person my age. I always wore nail polish too.
The people I dated initially told those who made unnecessary comments,
“It's fine. That's not why we're dating.”
And after I cooked for them in my apartment, they shared that cheerful secret with me forever.
That's one way to do it.
Therefore, as a basic rule, you should only let someone into your room if you feel comfortable treating them to a home-cooked meal, and whether you let them walk you to your door should be decided on a case-by-case basis.
This way, people who are violent, or who not only constantly ask you to cook for them but also demand you handle everything related to maintaining the living environment, or health maintenance—and then demand you work together or else marriage is out of the question.
Even if you accidentally start dating someone like that, if they start dragging you into conversations about cookbooks or books on chores, or suggesting you copy someone else's lifestyle, move on quickly.
If you don't mind.
Translated with DeepL.com (free version)
Rains in Heaven / Great Hacking theme song (unofficial)
We have decided to use the song Rains in Heaven as the theme song for Great Hacking.
Professor O. said "I,m found of this" about song.
This song is by NCT DREAM from our neighbor Korea.
The lyrics are "When you cry, it rains in heaven.
I have never seen such a beautiful sensibility before.
It is a song that gently tells you that those in heaven are on your side.
It is a song that goes to the reason for the Great Hacking we are doing.
The lyrics are "When you cry, it rains in heaven.
I have never seen such a beautiful sensibility before.
It is a song that gently tells you that those in heaven are on your side.
It is a song that goes to the reason for the Great Hacking we are doing.
20250414 18:32 Revised the text.
20250414 01:09 Revised the text.
20250414 01:09 Revised the text.
20251217 16:35 Added to Great Hacking.
