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20年位前、ネットニュースのライトテイストの記事で、承認欲求という言葉を初めて読みました。
人に自分の事を承認して欲しい欲求のことなんだそうだ、と書いてあり、そうなんだ、と奇妙な違和感だけが残りました。
簡単に言うと、目立ちたい人でその上、あの人は目立ちたがり屋と嫌な目を向けられるのも嫌だと言う、とてもとても人々に好かれたい人、又は欲求のことだと書いてありました。
そのまま、その言葉とその意味合いは私の中で固く残り、変だな？ とだけ何時迄もその字がイタリックの筆記体で印刷されたマスキングテープがその言葉の上に斜めに貼られていました。
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あれはツイッター（現：X）の創設者がついでにコレもと創ったものだ。
如何やって使うのか、Twitterですら未だについて行けないのに、Instagramというのもの迄出来てしまい、アカウントを取るのも無料なのも同じだけれど、そもそもそれはブログと違うのか？ それと全員見て見ぬふりをしているけれどYouTubeってもう話題にしても大丈夫ですか？という頃。
とにかく女子高生ならそういう事も良く知っているだろう、とライターさんか記者さんが取材したら、とてもとても哀しそうに、
「人に言うと、「え？インスタグラムやってるの？ 承認欲求強すぎーーっ！」と言われるから内緒でやっています。」
と書かれていました、大丈夫？ 被害に遭ったら警察に迷わず電話してね！（by エナメル Prof.O. Master A Aki&Yuuさん）
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それ以来、私はモニターのこっち側で、心の底から承認欲求という言葉が大嫌いになり、その言葉を使う人間にリアルですれ違うとか隣の席に座っていて、アカウント保持者とか発信者とかに面と向かって嘲笑するのを耳にしたら、本気で注意してやろうと決めていました。
今の所会っていません。
無論、人に使った事は私は未だにありません。
承認欲求という言葉を、私は人に向かって使った事は一度もありません。
何て嫌な言葉なんでしょうか？
一体、誰がそんなことを言うのだろう。と時々静かに考え込んで居ました。
これは私が繊細だからでは無く、上の言葉、凄く嫌な人間の顔を思い浮かべませんか？
目は怒りを隠しきれずに口だけ異様に笑顔作って冗談めかして、「承認欲求強すぎぃーっ！」ですよ？
言うかね？ （by Prof.O. Master A Aki&Yuuさん）
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そんなこと言う人は、とりあえずのグループでも話すのを最低限にした方が良いですよ。
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けれど私はネットでその言葉を見かける度、少し心に力を入れ、この言葉を今使っているこの人は発信やクリエイション、自分を表現するやり方を模索している人達に対し、暗い憎悪の気持ちがあるのだろうか・・・。とそっと息を止めて確かめながら、毎回、良かった違う。と安心して、その人達の発言を読んでいます。
その度に、本当に嫌な言葉だな・・・、と毎回毎回心底嫌な気分になる承認欲求という言葉。
ふと気が向いてグーグルで検索してみました。
人間が最初から出来ている自己肯定感（そうでなければ生きるのを即座に辞めますから）、自己を肯定する為の情報収集の種類の中で、
周囲からだけの情報を見るのを欲と表現しているらしいんです。
生まれながらに持っている自己を肯定する自我という精神の形を自己肯定感と呼ぶ、でダメなんでしょうか？
「・・・何言ってんだコイツ」
「マズロー、知らんぞ」
（by Prof.O. Master A Aki&Yuuさん）
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私は他のカテゴリーで言っていますが、大昔スタジオワーカーに応募して40人抜きでたった1人採用されていますので、言う権利があると思いますが。
私はマズロー氏が提唱する自己実現理論の最高次元に大昔の段階で立っていたと言うことになります。
それがどうかしたんですか？
私より優れている人は沢山居ますけど？ by エナメル
好きな髪型しているのも欲求とマズロー氏は言っているから、サロンに行って素敵な髪型になって満足したら、承認欲求を経て自己実現出来たという事になりますよね？
「上手に付き合わなくても全員出来ているでしょう！ 」Prof.O.
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とにかくマズロー氏は、人の欲求を心理学的に整理している1心理学学説の提唱者であって、承認欲求って言葉自体、そんな無理矢理に世の中に出して来なくても良いし、自分が努力したことや実行した事で他者からポジティブな反応があれば嬉しいのは当然ではないですか？
また、SNSという形ではありますが、発信をすれば良い反応が貰えたら嬉しいし、良い反応があれば良いな、と期待するのは当たり前ですよね。
時々、誰にも公開しない鍵をかけたアカウントで、ご自身が創った物の保管庫としてインターネット上の領域を使う方もおられますが、公開したら自分が自分に合う範囲で、良い反応を貰えたら喜ぶのは当たり前です。
現在、承認欲求と言う言葉を表現として使っているようですので、多くの方が他意が無いのは分かっています。
ですが、この言葉自体、承認されたい、という人からの評価だけが全部である。自発行為の発信なのに、他者を当てこんでいる依存性を最初から含んでいる。受け身だけである。
欲求という名前を付け、自惚れが強い。人からもっともっと好かれたいという、余り一般的ではない心理の歪みを含むニュアンスを、承認欲求という言葉は持っていますよね？
マズロー氏の心理学上での整理をわざわざ探し出して、ウェブ発信者は最初から承認欲求を含む強い他者依存を持っているとするなんて、パーソナルメディアの全アカウント保持者を一体、どうしたいんでしょうか？
個人的な話ですが、私はここでウェブマガジンをやっているつもりです。
その前にやっていたホームページスタイルでも、ウェブマガジンをやっているつもりでした。
細かい事を言えば、ホームページもブログも同じ物なんですけどね。
個人が素人の岸辺でメディア発信することが、そんなに珍しいですかね？
お金というベット・リターンの変わり、アクセス数というリターンを見て、自身が発信しているもののデータを取り、次の更新に役立てていくのが、
どーこーがー
欲（よーくー）なーんーでーすーかーー？
以上、 承認欲求という言葉の理解が間違っていますよ、でした。
Enamel
Master Aだ。
感謝祭以来だな。元気にしてるか？ 俺もだ。
俺はこの承認欲求が嫌いで仕方無い。
エナメルに無理言って書いて貰ったのはそういう理由だ。
何が承認だ。欲求って何がだ。
気にしなくて良い。好きにやれ。やってこその自己実現だ。
俺は心理学取ってる。間違ってないぞ。
Google AI、有難う。Master A
Prof.O.です。
僕はこのテのエセ心理学が大嫌いです。
嘘も大概にせえよ、とは僕の大後輩の言だった。
こんな事を整理せずとも、朝起きて、顔を洗い、好きな服を着てるでしょう？
それが自己実現です。
若きウェルテルの悩みはそんな事をウジウジ悩む事では無く、自分の立ち方（よくエナメルが立ち位置と言っているそれ）を見極めたくて七転八倒する思索の旅について記述されている。
それを承認欲求の底辺にウェルテル思考と迄書いてある。
バカなんじゃないのか！
こんな事嘘だよ。
気にしないで下さい。
皆さんの好きな事を静かに楽しく発信して下されば、僕達がいつか巡り合って素敵なケミストリーが発生します。
僕はこれを沈黙のスパークと呼び、とても良い事としていました。今も変わりません。
Prof.O.
バカがごめんね！嘘ばっかり言い回って、ホントごめんね！
by Aki&Yuu
「俺、こういうのを憎むから。」by F☆
僕な、こういうんのん、えらい嫌いやな。ええな。こんなん言うたらアカンよ。Rも
Special Thanks : Master A Aki&Yuuさん F☆ Rも
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All Photo Image Editing by Enamel
承認欲求という言葉自体が間違っていますよ
“desire for approval” is Big Wrong!!
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2026年のインターネットメディア Vol.1
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About 20 years ago, I first came across the term “desire for approval” in a light-hearted online news article.
It explained that it refers to the desire for others to approve of you, and while I thought, “Oh, I see,” I was left with nothing but a strange sense of unease.
Simply put, the article described it as someone who wants to stand out but also hates being looked down upon as a “show-off”—in other words, someone who wants to be liked by others very, very much, or the desire itself.
That term and its meaning stuck with me firmly, and I kept thinking, “That’s weird, isn’t it?” It was as if a piece of masking tape printed in italic script had been stuck diagonally across the word, and it stayed there forever.
It explained that it refers to the desire for others to approve of you, and while I thought, “Oh, I see,” I was left with nothing but a strange sense of unease.
Simply put, the article described it as someone who wants to stand out but also hates being looked down upon as a “show-off”—in other words, someone who wants to be liked by others very, very much, or the desire itself.
That term and its meaning stuck with me firmly, and I kept thinking, “That’s weird, isn’t it?” It was as if a piece of masking tape printed in italic script had been stuck diagonally across the word, and it stayed there forever.
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Then one day, it seems something called Instagram was launched.
It was created by the founder of Twitter (now X) as a side project.
I was still struggling to keep up with Twitter, so I wondered how on earth to use Instagram—especially since it had just appeared out of nowhere. Sure, signing up was free just like Twitter, but was it even different from a blog to begin with? Around that time, I also found myself wondering, “Is it finally okay to talk about YouTube now, even though everyone’s pretending not to notice it?”
Anyway, assuming high school girls would be well aware of such things, a writer or reporter interviewed one, and she replied, looking very, very sad,
“If I tell people, they say, ‘Huh? You’re on Instagram? You’re way too desperate for validation!’ so I do it in secret.”
That’s what was written. Are you okay? If you become a victim, don’t hesitate to call the police! (by Enamel Prof. O. Master A, Aki & Yuu)
Ever since then, from this side of the screen, I’ve come to hate the phrase “desire for approval” with every fiber of my being. I decided that if I ever actually ran into someone using that phrase in real life—whether passing them on the street or sitting next to them—and heard them mocking the account holder or the person posting, I’d seriously call them out on it.
So far, I haven’t met anyone like that.
Of course, I’ve never used it on anyone myself.
I’ve never once used the phrase “desire for approval” when addressing another person.
What a horrible phrase, isn’t it?
I’ve sometimes found myself quietly wondering, “Who on earth would actually say something like that?”
It’s not because I’m overly sensitive—but doesn’t that phrase make you picture the face of a truly unpleasant person?
Someone whose eyes can’t quite hide their anger, but whose mouth is forced into an unnaturally wide smile as they say, in a joking tone, “Your need for validation is way too strong!” Right?
It was created by the founder of Twitter (now X) as a side project.
I was still struggling to keep up with Twitter, so I wondered how on earth to use Instagram—especially since it had just appeared out of nowhere. Sure, signing up was free just like Twitter, but was it even different from a blog to begin with? Around that time, I also found myself wondering, “Is it finally okay to talk about YouTube now, even though everyone’s pretending not to notice it?”
Anyway, assuming high school girls would be well aware of such things, a writer or reporter interviewed one, and she replied, looking very, very sad,
“If I tell people, they say, ‘Huh? You’re on Instagram? You’re way too desperate for validation!’ so I do it in secret.”
That’s what was written. Are you okay? If you become a victim, don’t hesitate to call the police! (by Enamel Prof. O. Master A, Aki & Yuu)
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So far, I haven’t met anyone like that.
Of course, I’ve never used it on anyone myself.
I’ve never once used the phrase “desire for approval” when addressing another person.
What a horrible phrase, isn’t it?
I’ve sometimes found myself quietly wondering, “Who on earth would actually say something like that?”
It’s not because I’m overly sensitive—but doesn’t that phrase make you picture the face of a truly unpleasant person?
Someone whose eyes can’t quite hide their anger, but whose mouth is forced into an unnaturally wide smile as they say, in a joking tone, “Your need for validation is way too strong!” Right?
Would you really say that? (by Prof. O. Master A, Aki & Yuu)
Would you really say something like that to someone who says, “I’m on Instagram”?
If you’re the kind of person who says things like that, you should keep your comments to a minimum, even in casual groups.
As of 2026, the term “desire for recognition” is used widely as a convenient way to describe a strong desire to be acknowledged by others.
But every time I come across that phrase online, I brace myself a little and hold my breath, wondering, “Does the person using this phrase right now harbor a dark, hateful feeling toward those who are exploring ways to share their thoughts, create, and express themselves…?” Each time, I’m relieved to find that, “No, that’s not the case,” and I read their posts with a sense of relief.
Every single time, the phrase “desire for approval” makes me feel truly disgusted… it leaves me with a deep sense of unease, time and time again.
On a whim, I decided to look it up on Google.
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If you’re the kind of person who says things like that, you should keep your comments to a minimum, even in casual groups.
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But every time I come across that phrase online, I brace myself a little and hold my breath, wondering, “Does the person using this phrase right now harbor a dark, hateful feeling toward those who are exploring ways to share their thoughts, create, and express themselves…?” Each time, I’m relieved to find that, “No, that’s not the case,” and I read their posts with a sense of relief.
Every single time, the phrase “desire for approval” makes me feel truly disgusted… it leaves me with a deep sense of unease, time and time again.
On a whim, I decided to look it up on Google.
The desire for recognition refers to the innate, natural human need to “be recognized by others”
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
Maslow’s Five-Stage Theory of Needs
and to “be recognized as a valuable person.” It is a natural desire that humans are born with.
It is a feeling that everyone possesses, and in work and study,
Physiological Needs
it serves as a driving force that boosts motivation.
Among the various ways humans gather information to affirm themselves—a sense of self-worth that we’re born with (otherwise we’d stop living immediately)—
it seems that relying solely on information from those around us is described as “desire.”
Wouldn’t it be fine to simply call this innate mental state—the ego that affirms the self—a “sense of self-worth”?
it seems that relying solely on information from those around us is described as “desire.”
Wouldn’t it be fine to simply call this innate mental state—the ego that affirms the self—a “sense of self-worth”?
The most well-known psychological theory regarding the need for recognition is Abraham Maslow’s “Theory of Self-Actualization (Hierarchy of Needs).”
Maslow categorized human needs into five levels. The need for recognition (need for esteem) is placed at the fourth level, and it is believed that once this need is satisfied, individuals can move on to the highest level: the “need for self-actualization.”
▶ [5. Need for Self-Actualization] (Wanting to realize one’s full potential)
[4. Need for Recognition (Dignity)] ★Here! (Wanting to be recognized by others, wanting to recognize oneself)
[3. Social Need (Belonging and Love)] (Wanting to be accepted by friends and groups, wanting to avoid loneliness)
[2. Need for Safety] (Wanting to ensure health, financial stability, and physical and mental safety)
[1. Physiological Needs] (Instinctive needs for survival, such as sleep, appetite, and excretion)
“...What the heck is this guy talking about?”
“I don't know who Maslow is.”
(by Prof. O. Master A, Aki & Yuu)
“I don't know who Maslow is.”
(by Prof. O. Master A, Aki & Yuu)
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As I’ve mentioned in other posts, I applied for a studio worker position a long time ago and was the only one hired out of 40 applicants, so I think I have the right to say this.
That means I was already at the highest level of Maslow’s theory of self-actualization way back then.
So what?
There are plenty of people better than me, aren’t there? — Enamel
Maslow says that having the hairstyle you like is a need, so if you go to a salon, get a great hairstyle, and feel satisfied, that means you’ve achieved self-actualization after fulfilling your need for recognition, right?
Two Types of the Desire for Recognition
・ Desire for recognition from others: The desire for external rewards, such as wanting to be noticed by others or receiving praise on social media.
・ Desire for self-approval: The desire to affirm oneself based on one’s own standards—such as wanting to acknowledge one’s own efforts or maintain self-esteem. ←freee +1
Causes of an Increased Desire for Approval
・ Low self-esteem: Because one cannot recognize one’s own worth, one ends up relying on the evaluations of others.
・ The proliferation of social media: The number of “likes” and followers is quantified and visible, creating an environment where people are constantly concerned about how others perceive them.
How to Get Along Well with Others
・ Think about what you want to do, rather than what others think of you.
・ Every day, find things you can do now that you couldn’t do in the past.
“Everyone’s managing just fine without having to get along perfectly, aren’t they?!” Prof. O.
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Also, even on social media, it’s only natural to be happy when you receive positive feedback after posting something, and to hope for a positive response.
Sometimes, people use a private, locked account—one not visible to anyone—as a digital repository for their own creations, but if they choose to make something public, it’s only natural to be happy if they receive positive feedback within a range that feels comfortable to them.
Since the term “need for recognition” is commonly used these days, I understand that most people don’t mean anything by it.
However, the term itself implies that the only thing that matters is the evaluation from others—that one simply wants to be approved of. Even though it’s a spontaneous act of sharing, it inherently contains a dependency on others from the very beginning. It’s purely passive.
By labeling it a “desire,” it smacks of arrogance. The term “desire for approval” carries a nuance that implies a rather uncommon psychological distortion—the desire to be liked more and more by others, doesn’t it?
Why go out of your way to dig up Maslow’s psychological framework and claim that web content creators inherently possess a strong dependence on others—including this “desire for approval”—from the very start? What exactly are you trying to do to all personal media account holders?
On a personal note, I intend to run a web magazine here.
Even with the homepage-style site I ran before this, I intended to run a web magazine.
To be precise, a homepage and a blog are essentially the same thing.
Is it really that unusual for an individual to publish content from the amateur fringes?
Instead of a monetary return on investment, I look at page views as my return; I collect data on what I’m publishing and use it to improve my next update—how on earth is that “g-r-e-e-d”?
That’s all I have to say: your understanding of the term “desire for recognition” is wrong.
Enamel
It’s Master A.
It’s been since Thanksgiving, hasn’t it? How are you doing? I’m doing fine, too.
I really can’t stand this need for validation.
That’s why I asked Enamel to write this, even though it was a bit of a stretch.
What’s this about “validation”? What’s this “need” anyway?
Don’t worry about it. Just do whatever you want. Self-actualization comes from taking action.
I’m majoring in psychology. I’m not wrong about this.
Thanks, Google AI. Master A
It’s been since Thanksgiving, hasn’t it? How are you doing? I’m doing fine, too.
I really can’t stand this need for validation.
That’s why I asked Enamel to write this, even though it was a bit of a stretch.
What’s this about “validation”? What’s this “need” anyway?
Don’t worry about it. Just do whatever you want. Self-actualization comes from taking action.
I’m majoring in psychology. I’m not wrong about this.
Thanks, Google AI. Master A
This is Prof. O.
I absolutely hate this kind of pseudo-psychology.
“Give it a rest with the lies,” as my junior once said.
Even without analyzing all this, you wake up in the morning, wash your face, and put on the clothes you like, don’t you?
That is self-actualization.
*The Sorrows of Young Werther* isn’t about moping over such things; it describes a journey of intense contemplation where Werther struggles to determine his stance in life (the very thing Enamel often refers to as one’s “position”).
Yet they go so far as to label that as “Werther-style thinking” rooted in a baser desire for validation.
Are they out of their minds?!
This is all a lie.
Please don’t worry about it.
If you all just quietly and joyfully share the things you love, we’ll cross paths someday and some wonderful chemistry will happen.
I used to call this the “Spark of Silence” and considered it a very good thing. That hasn’t changed.
Prof. O.
Sorry, you stupid idiot! I’ve been telling nothing but lies—I’m really sorry!
by Aki&Yuu
by Aki&Yuu
“I hate stuff like this.” by F☆
Man, I really hate stuff like this. Yeah, right. You're not supposed to say things like that. Rtoo
Special Thanks : Master A Aki & Yuu F☆ Rtoo
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“desire for approval” is Big Wrong!!
承認欲求という言葉自体が間違っていますよ
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Internet Media of 2026
