1ヶ月経過するまでまだまだ時間がありますので、あまり気負わず過ごして下さい。
ところで、やがて相手が謝りに来ようとすると思います。
ただひろゆきさんもおっしゃられて居ますが、ごめんで済めば警察はいらない。んですよね。
勿論、常識を知っている大人の社会では、ごめんで済む場合が殆どです。
ですが、物事には限度というものがあります。子供だろうと何だろうとです。
しかも相手はちっとも何とも思って居ないのに、謝罪さえすればそいつの社会的にオッケーだと勘違いしているんです。
なので、謝罪をしたい、という申し出が往々にしてあると思います。
その場合、ご自身で話をしてはいけない。
これが応じないです。
誰か、法律関係の方か警察の方に代わりに話をして貰って下さい。
けれど世の中の都合の良い人達は、子供の時自分に憎悪を向けた相手が後に子供だから仲直りが出来る、と信じ込んでいるんです。
嘘です。
それで相手が断っているのに（応じないというのはそういうことなんです）、しつこく謝罪の申し出をして来たら、
「今は話せない。何を言っても嘘になってしまうから。だから大人になってまだあなたが憶えて居たなら、その時話そう」
というメッセージを伝えて下さい。
大人になって、が肝です。
まあ、大きくなったらまた来るでしょう。バカだから。
で、また繰り返すんです。
同じ事を、誰か代理に、居なければ淡々と同じ事を。
2回目には記録を取って、相手にメッセージを伝えた後、すぐ警察に連絡します。
次はありません。
謝罪を執拗に繰り返すのは、脅迫である。と判例が80年代後半には出ているんです。
で、向こうには警察から問い合わせが行きます。
「あなた、謝罪の受け入れの強要をしましたね？」
相手は寝耳に水です。
なんか1人だけの感動ストーリィの主人公になりきって、大人になったと言っても良い時まで何年も待ってまた言いに来てるんですから。
そこであなたが一体何を告げて居たか、やっと理解するんです。
私はさっさとあなたを置き去りにしますが、あなたは停まった時間の中で、ある筈も無い、美しい子供時代のバカ幻想の中でやくそくとか言うらしいのを待ってろよ。
です。
それでも30歳頃にまた来たら、また同じ事を繰り返します。
「今は話せない。何を言っても嘘になってしまうから。だから大人になってまだあなたが憶えて居たなら、その時話そう」
恐らく相手の顔が蒼白になりますが、気にしなくて良いです。
此の場合、年齢と状況とそいつだけが記憶し続けて居なければならない何十年の時間が、一体何に変わって居たかをまた知るだけですから。
この状況の場合、「大人になってまだあなたが憶えて居たなら 」が要点に変わります。
お前がまだ謝罪したがっているのは、お前が子供の頃から30歳になるまで時間が止まっているせいだよ。
お前が大人になったら話してやっても良いよ。
だがお前がこの「約束に勝手にして酔いしれているもの」を、お前だけが記憶し続けている限り、お前は子供で居続けるしか無いんだ。
一度でも他人をしくじったら、仲直りなんて出来ないんだよ。
クラスメイトって（会社って）他人が偶然一緒になっただけだろ？
大人はそんなつまらない幻想が現実には無いって知っているんだ。
早く大人になれよ。
です。
相手はあなたに謝罪を乞い続ける限り、大人になれないんです。
ついでにまた警察に連絡して、本人に注意して貰いましょう。
交渉の機会を与えると言うのは、互いが交渉し合える仲である。
または交渉すべき共通の問題を良い方向に解決を試みるんです。
それ、そいつにとってしか利益が無い、ただのバカが気が済むだけの謝罪ですよね？
なので、交渉の機会を与えてはいけません。
私達とあなただけが先に進みます。
2026/09/02 ROUTE 9
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There’s still plenty of time before a month has passed, so please try not to stress too much.
By the way, I think the other person will eventually try to come apologize.
But as Hiroyuki-san also pointed out, if an apology were enough, we wouldn’t need the police. Right?
Of course, in a society of adults who understand common sense, an apology is usually enough.
However, there are limits to everything—whether it’s a child or anyone else.
What’s more, even though the other person doesn’t feel the slightest remorse, they’re under the mistaken impression that simply apologizing makes them socially acceptable.
So, I think you’ll likely receive offers to apologize.
In that case, you must not speak with them yourself.
Do not agree to this.
Have someone—a legal professional or a police officer—speak on your behalf.
But the self-serving people in this world are convinced that because the person who directed hatred toward them as a child is now a child themselves, they can make amends.
That’s a lie.
So, if they persistently offer to apologize even though the other party has refused (which is exactly what “not agreeing” means),
please convey this message:
“I can’t talk about it right now. Anything I say would just be a lie. So, if you still remember this when you’re an adult, let’s talk then.”
That’s the key.
“When you’re an adult” is the key part.
Well, they’ll probably come back when they’re older. Because they’re idiots.
And then they’ll do it all over again.
The same thing—through a proxy, or if there isn’t one, they’ll just say the same thing matter-of-factly.
The second time it happens, record the conversation, and after you’ve conveyed the message to them, contact the police immediately.
There won’t be a next time.
A court ruling from the late 1980s established that persistently repeating apologies constitutes harassment.
Then, the police will contact them.
“You forced someone to accept your apology, didn’t you?”
It’ll come as a complete surprise to them.
They’ve been playing the hero of some solo, heartwarming story, waiting years—until they were old enough to be considered an adult—just to come back and say it all over again.
That’s when they’ll finally understand what you were actually trying to tell them all along.
I’ll leave you behind in a heartbeat, but you—stuck in that frozen moment—go ahead and wait for whatever you call a “promise” in the midst of those foolish, beautiful childhood fantasies that could never have existed.
That’s it.
If they come back again around the age of 30, I’ll repeat the same thing.
“I can’t talk about it now. Anything I say would be a lie. So, if you’re still an adult and you still remember this, let’s talk then.”
The other person’s face will probably turn pale, but don’t worry about it.
In this case, they’ll just come to realize once again what exactly those decades—which only they have continued to remember, along with their age and circumstances—have turned into.
In this situation, “If you still remember me when you’re an adult” becomes the key point.
The reason you’re still so eager to apologize is because time has stood still for you, from your childhood until you turned 30.
I’ll be happy to talk to you about it once you’ve grown up.
But as long as you’re the only one who keeps remembering this “promise you’ve arbitrarily clung to,” you’ll have no choice but to remain a child.
Once you’ve messed up with someone else, even just once, there’s no making up.
Classmates (or coworkers) are just strangers who happened to end up together, right?
By the way, I think the other person will eventually try to come apologize.
But as Hiroyuki-san also pointed out, if an apology were enough, we wouldn’t need the police. Right?
Of course, in a society of adults who understand common sense, an apology is usually enough.
However, there are limits to everything—whether it’s a child or anyone else.
What’s more, even though the other person doesn’t feel the slightest remorse, they’re under the mistaken impression that simply apologizing makes them socially acceptable.
So, I think you’ll likely receive offers to apologize.
In that case, you must not speak with them yourself.
Do not agree to this.
Have someone—a legal professional or a police officer—speak on your behalf.
But the self-serving people in this world are convinced that because the person who directed hatred toward them as a child is now a child themselves, they can make amends.
That’s a lie.
So, if they persistently offer to apologize even though the other party has refused (which is exactly what “not agreeing” means),
please convey this message:
“I can’t talk about it right now. Anything I say would just be a lie. So, if you still remember this when you’re an adult, let’s talk then.”
That’s the key.
“When you’re an adult” is the key part.
Well, they’ll probably come back when they’re older. Because they’re idiots.
And then they’ll do it all over again.
The same thing—through a proxy, or if there isn’t one, they’ll just say the same thing matter-of-factly.
The second time it happens, record the conversation, and after you’ve conveyed the message to them, contact the police immediately.
There won’t be a next time.
A court ruling from the late 1980s established that persistently repeating apologies constitutes harassment.
Then, the police will contact them.
“You forced someone to accept your apology, didn’t you?”
It’ll come as a complete surprise to them.
They’ve been playing the hero of some solo, heartwarming story, waiting years—until they were old enough to be considered an adult—just to come back and say it all over again.
That’s when they’ll finally understand what you were actually trying to tell them all along.
I’ll leave you behind in a heartbeat, but you—stuck in that frozen moment—go ahead and wait for whatever you call a “promise” in the midst of those foolish, beautiful childhood fantasies that could never have existed.
That’s it.
If they come back again around the age of 30, I’ll repeat the same thing.
“I can’t talk about it now. Anything I say would be a lie. So, if you’re still an adult and you still remember this, let’s talk then.”
The other person’s face will probably turn pale, but don’t worry about it.
In this case, they’ll just come to realize once again what exactly those decades—which only they have continued to remember, along with their age and circumstances—have turned into.
In this situation, “If you still remember me when you’re an adult” becomes the key point.
The reason you’re still so eager to apologize is because time has stood still for you, from your childhood until you turned 30.
I’ll be happy to talk to you about it once you’ve grown up.
But as long as you’re the only one who keeps remembering this “promise you’ve arbitrarily clung to,” you’ll have no choice but to remain a child.
Once you’ve messed up with someone else, even just once, there’s no making up.
Classmates (or coworkers) are just strangers who happened to end up together, right?
Adults know that such silly fantasies don’t exist in reality.
Grow up already.
That’s it.
As long as the other person keeps begging you for an apology, they’ll never grow up.
While you’re at it, contact the police again and have them give that person a warning.
Giving someone a chance to negotiate means you’re on good enough terms to negotiate with each other.
Or it means trying to resolve a shared issue in a positive way through negotiation.
That’s just an apology that benefits only that person—it’s just a way for some idiot to satisfy their own ego, right?
So, you shouldn’t give them a chance to negotiate.
Only we and you will move forward.
Grow up already.
That’s it.
As long as the other person keeps begging you for an apology, they’ll never grow up.
While you’re at it, contact the police again and have them give that person a warning.
Giving someone a chance to negotiate means you’re on good enough terms to negotiate with each other.
Or it means trying to resolve a shared issue in a positive way through negotiation.
That’s just an apology that benefits only that person—it’s just a way for some idiot to satisfy their own ego, right?
So, you shouldn’t give them a chance to negotiate.
Only we and you will move forward.
September 2, 2026 ROUTE 9
