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大きなお世話を言われた時、エレガンスな撃退例。
一般社会人向け。
「そうですか私はします」
一気に言うのがコツ。
一気に思うのがコツ。
ヨーロッパの上品な街角をイメージしながらやるのを忘れないで下さい。
会話の場合も、思ってるだけの場合も、その後の返事はすべて、にこやかに
「いえいえ」
「あー、いえ」
と軽く頷いた後、微笑んで、後は立ち去るのみです。
その場に留まってもいい環境なら、3分以内に無表情になること。
これはかなり色々な場面に使えます。
「そうですか私はします。」
「そうですか僕はします。」
「そうですか俺はします。」
「そうですかあたしはします。」
「そうですか私達はします。」
「そうですか僕達はします。」
「そうですかあたし達はします。」
「そうですか俺達はします。」
等です。
ヨーロッパの上品な街角をイメージしながら、一気に言って下さい。一気に思ってください。
その後の対応は全て、微笑んだり、にこやかに、軽く頷いて「いえいえ」と言いましょう。
使えるので、ぜひ役立て下さい。
説明
大きなお世話というのは、「あなたの何かをやめさせたい」んです。
あなたの行動を阻害したいし、あなたの選択と行動を妨害したいんです。
これも攻撃なんですよ。普通は言わない。
相手のうっかり失言や本当に善意で言っているのなら、必ず相手は態度を改めます。言い方を変えます。
この場合は、言葉ではなく、相手が何を（要点にまとめるとわかりやすい。）、この状況で言っているのか、
を判断基準にしてください。
それでこの対応です。
これは私が以前住んでいたエレンガンスな街で、
人生を豊かにする色々なことを態度や挨拶、少しの会話で教えてくださった住人の方々から学んだものです。
ぜひ役立ててください。
一気に言うとき、笑ってもいいし、途中で途切れてもいい。つっかえても最後まで続けます。
あっさり、無表情で言うのが1番、シックです。
笑いながら言っても、フレンドリーに拒絶が伝わるし、
怒りながら言っても、相手はあなたの剣幕に次の言葉が継げません。
しつこく言われたり、「せっかく言ってあげたのに」「君のために言ってるんだよ」「アドバイスなのに」等、
相手が何を言おうと、
あなたが大きなお世話だと感じたことは、あなたにとって大きなお世話なんです。
受け取る必要は一切ありません。
私の場合は、「いえいえいいんですよ？」と軽く頷いて微笑みながら、さっさとその場を去ります。
何を言っても無駄 と言われた時のみ
「あなたはそこまでして、僕に何をさせたくないんですか？」
と俺は言っていました。
ほとんどの相手がそれ以上何か言う事はありませんでした。
頑張りましょう。by O
「あなたはそこまでして、僕に何をさせたくないんですか？」
と俺は言っていました。
ほとんどの相手がそれ以上何か言う事はありませんでした。
頑張りましょう。by O
LET'S DO IT NOW !!
Rains in Heaven / Great Hacking テーマ曲（非公式）
Rains in Heavenという楽曲をGreat Hacking のテーマ曲にすることに決めました。
O.先生も大賛成して下さっています。
この楽曲は、お隣の国 韓国のNCT DREAMの曲です。
「君が泣くと、天国で雨が降る。」
という歌詞です。
私はこんな素敵な感性に初めて触れました。
優しく、天国にいる方達は貴方の味方だと告げる楽曲です。
私達がやっているGreat Hackingの理由に通じる楽曲だと思います。
20241124 21:45 O先生の付記を追加。
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| purish = the real deal |
An elegant way to brush off unsolicited advice.
For working professionals.
“Is that so? I’ll do it.”
The trick is to say it all in one breath.
The trick is to think it all in one breath.
Don’t forget to imagine yourself on a refined European street corner while doing this.
Whether in conversation or just thinking to yourself, your response afterward should always be a cheerful
“No, no.”
“Ah, no.”
After a light nod, smile, and then simply walk away.
If the situation allows you to stay, make sure to adopt a neutral expression within three minutes.
This works in quite a variety of situations.
“Is that so? I’ll do it.”
“Is that so? I’ll do it.”
“Is that so? I’ll do it.”
“Is that so? I’ll do it.”
“Is that so? We’ll do it.”
“Is that so? We’ll do it.”
“Is that so? We’ll do it.”
“Is that so? We’ll do it.”
And so on.
Imagine yourself on an elegant street corner in Europe, and say it all in one breath. Think it all in one breath.
For all subsequent responses, just smile, nod lightly, and say “No, no.”
It’s a useful technique, so please make good use of it.
Explanation
When someone says “Mind your own business,” they actually want to stop you from doing something.
They want to hinder your actions and interfere with your choices and behavior.
This is also a form of attack. It’s not something people usually say.
If the other person has simply slipped up or is speaking with genuine good intentions, they will definitely change their attitude. They’ll change the way they speak.
In this case, rather than focusing on the words themselves, use as your criteria what the other person is actually saying (it’s easier to understand if you summarize the main points) in this situation.
Here’s how to respond.
I learned this from the residents of the elegant town where I used to live,
who taught me various ways to enrich my life through their attitudes, greetings, and brief conversations.
I hope you find this useful.
When you say it all at once, it’s okay to smile, and it’s okay if you pause in the middle. Even if you stumble, keep going until the end.
Saying it matter-of-factly and without expression is the most chic approach.
If you say it while laughing, your rejection comes across as friendly,
and if you say it angrily, the other person won’t be able to get a word in edgewise because of your intensity.
Whether they pester you, say things like “I went out of my way to tell you this,” “I’m saying this for your own good,” or “It’s just advice,”
no matter what they say,
if you feel it’s none of their business, then it really is none of their business.
You have absolutely no obligation to accept it.
In my case, I’d nod lightly and smile, saying, “No, no, it’s fine,” and then quickly walk away.
Only when I was told, “It’s no use saying anything,”
would I say,
“Why are you going to such lengths to stop me from doing this?”
Most people wouldn’t say anything more after that.
Let’s do our best. by O
LET’S DO IT NOW!!
For working professionals.
“Is that so? I’ll do it.”
The trick is to say it all in one breath.
The trick is to think it all in one breath.
Don’t forget to imagine yourself on a refined European street corner while doing this.
Whether in conversation or just thinking to yourself, your response afterward should always be a cheerful
“No, no.”
“Ah, no.”
After a light nod, smile, and then simply walk away.
If the situation allows you to stay, make sure to adopt a neutral expression within three minutes.
This works in quite a variety of situations.
“Is that so? I’ll do it.”
“Is that so? I’ll do it.”
“Is that so? I’ll do it.”
“Is that so? I’ll do it.”
“Is that so? We’ll do it.”
“Is that so? We’ll do it.”
“Is that so? We’ll do it.”
“Is that so? We’ll do it.”
And so on.
Imagine yourself on an elegant street corner in Europe, and say it all in one breath. Think it all in one breath.
For all subsequent responses, just smile, nod lightly, and say “No, no.”
It’s a useful technique, so please make good use of it.
Explanation
When someone says “Mind your own business,” they actually want to stop you from doing something.
They want to hinder your actions and interfere with your choices and behavior.
This is also a form of attack. It’s not something people usually say.
If the other person has simply slipped up or is speaking with genuine good intentions, they will definitely change their attitude. They’ll change the way they speak.
In this case, rather than focusing on the words themselves, use as your criteria what the other person is actually saying (it’s easier to understand if you summarize the main points) in this situation.
Here’s how to respond.
I learned this from the residents of the elegant town where I used to live,
who taught me various ways to enrich my life through their attitudes, greetings, and brief conversations.
I hope you find this useful.
When you say it all at once, it’s okay to smile, and it’s okay if you pause in the middle. Even if you stumble, keep going until the end.
Saying it matter-of-factly and without expression is the most chic approach.
If you say it while laughing, your rejection comes across as friendly,
and if you say it angrily, the other person won’t be able to get a word in edgewise because of your intensity.
Whether they pester you, say things like “I went out of my way to tell you this,” “I’m saying this for your own good,” or “It’s just advice,”
no matter what they say,
if you feel it’s none of their business, then it really is none of their business.
You have absolutely no obligation to accept it.
In my case, I’d nod lightly and smile, saying, “No, no, it’s fine,” and then quickly walk away.
Only when I was told, “It’s no use saying anything,”
would I say,
“Why are you going to such lengths to stop me from doing this?”
Most people wouldn’t say anything more after that.
Let’s do our best. by O
LET’S DO IT NOW!!
Rains in Heaven / Great Hacking theme song (unofficial)
We have decided to use the song Rains in Heaven as the theme song for Great Hacking.
Professor O. said "I,m found of this" about song.
This song is by NCT DREAM from our neighbor Korea.
The lyrics are "When you cry, it rains in heaven.
I have never seen such a beautiful sensibility before.
It is a song that gently tells you that those in heaven are on your side.
It is a song that goes to the reason for the Great Hacking we are doing.
The lyrics are "When you cry, it rains in heaven.
I have never seen such a beautiful sensibility before.
It is a song that gently tells you that those in heaven are on your side.
It is a song that goes to the reason for the Great Hacking we are doing.
